There were times in the past when I didn’t think I would get married. This was not because of my lack of commitment skills. It was more because of the people I dated. None of the guys I was with were good for me. Thinking back, now, I don’t think I was really thinking. I was settling and you should never settle. There were people who I thought I loved but I know now that it wasn’t love. Life teaches you certain lessons and with every bad relationship/encounter you learn and move on.
The first time I was really serious about getting married was in my 20s. The feeling of wanting to get married just grew stronger as I got older. In the movies the women always dream of their perfect wedding. I didn’t really want to think about that because my wedding day was no where in sight.
It was the spring of 2015 and I happened to come across an old friend on Facebook. Who knew it was going to be forever. The wedding day was amazing. It was sunny and beautiful outside. We thought it was going to rain. I started checking the weather a month before the actual date. It had rained before then so the ground was a little muddy. It was also windy that day but the sun was enough to warm everybody.
Preparing for the wedding was a lot of work. I did most of the art that we displayed because I didn’t want to buy more things for the wedding. The night before the wedding my sister and I stayed in a Holiday Inn near the venue because we were doing the whole “let’s not see each other before the wedding.” Also, we were doing our hair and makeup at the hotel so it was much more convenient for us. The next day was hectic. Hair and makeup arrived but my mom wasn’t there yet and neither was my bridesmaid. They started on us first while waiting for them. When everyone was there, the photographer arrived soon after that and took several “getting ready” photos. We then rushed to the venue to take more photos before the ceremony started. It was a long wait before the ceremony, or maybe it was just in my head.
Walking down the aisle with my dad was amazing. I never thought that I would be getting married to the perfect guy at a gorgeous venue. There’s just no words to describe how wonderful it was. It was also a little terrifying to walk out there because my train was long and my shoes were hard to walk in. We had to walk around a fountain, which I forgot was there. We were told to walk on one side of it because the other side was wet and the water sprayed in that direction. When we got to where everyone was sitting it was overwhelming in a sense because everyone was standing. Even though we were already married, I still felt anxious and nervous.
The ceremony was perfect because it wasn’t perfect. It was windy and my hair was blowing everywhere. A light fixture on the ground tripped someone sitting in the front row. The wind blew the sand from our sand ceremony all over the place. It was perfect because that is just how I would describe our story. The little imperfections make it perfect. After the ceremony we took pictures in the grass which was a challenge, especially for us who wore heels. We all sank into the ground and my dress got all dirty because it was trailing behind me. We were given a choice whether to take pictures by the water or just near the building. The lake was a good walk in the grass. I decided that it would be worth it to walk over there. I sank in the ground several times and my feet hurt so much (lol).
After we were done I change my shoes to sandals and I was so much more comfortable. The reception was great and we got to talk and hangout with family and friends we haven’t seen in years. The only thing we sort of missed out on was the happy hour (which we heard was amazing) and the food at the reception. You can get so busy that there really was no time to relax and eat. It was also hard to go and pee because my dress was huge. I had to wait until after to go to the bathroom.
The day went by so fast. I wish it was a little bit slower so we could soak it all in. I also wished we could have taken pictures at the happy hour or designated someone to take pictures for us. It would have been great to see everyone enjoying themselves. But all in all, it was an unforgettable day and I’m just so lucky to have met such an amazing person. Never in a million years would I have guessed that I would meet him again after all those years. It’s funny how life works and I really have to thank God for bringing us together. I know it might seem like some things are just coincidences but I’m a firm believer that things happen for a reason. All those years apart allowed us to grow into the people we are today. I was so different back then and I don’t think our relationship would have been as strong as it is now.
This post has been a little long-winded and I wasn’t really sure what I wanted to write about when I first started typing, to be honest. But I am curious to know what your wedding stories are. Please comment below.